Rest in peace, dear lady. Thanks for putting up with me and thanks for all the wonderful Thanksgiving/Christmas gatherings and delicious feasts. God Bless you. Jim Johns

I still can’t believe your not here, miss talking with you. I know your in a very nice place and finally at peace. We will see each other again one day, until then Rest in Peace my friend.

Dang Mom are you kidding me? Thanks Let there be NO MORE DOUBT.

Hi Mom! Wanted to tell you how much I love you. I hope Shandi made it OK to you and that you 2 will be walking around up there above me. I miss you so much. I will be thinking of you on mothers day. I know Paul misses you and Joey and Ammie also!

Hi Sandy think about you a lot, Hoping you are at peace. Well today is your baby girl Roni birthday 55 yrs old. I think that’s about the age we met, We ruled our lifes some times we had a blast of Fun Times, But other times we cried together Thank You for being there we pulled together and laughed it off together, I will never forget you. Rest Well my friend. Love Dora.

Sandra was a great friend and neighbor. She had such a great laugh and personality. As time goes by I think of her often. She truly loved her family and always wanted the best for them. We had many long walks and talks and I glad she came in to our lives. Warm regards, June

Hi Mom You have been gone over 2 years :((( I know your in good hands now, I just wish you never married Paul Durham.I can think only that you would be alive and happy today if you had not.But you did, and it was your choice.I knew when you gained weight back (you were size 6 when you married Paul). Only a person with the same problems as you would understand. I am just like you. I overeat when i’m upset or just alone. mom you shared with me the sad times with Paul. I don’t remember any good times that is for sure.But I so wished I had acted and helped you escape Paul Durham.He took you from a happy beautiful lady to a sad pissed off old lady.Others may read this and disagree. Those would be the ones you did not tell the things you had told me about Paul and how badly he acted around everyone that you ended up married but alone.Alone in your time of true need, I failed to go to you.I am sorry for that, but I need to somehow get you out of my mind. But how can I do that when Paul’s Wife after your death has contacted me about his treatment of herself.she has divorced him, but is distressing her because he wont leave her alone. She has filed a protective order against Paul.And does she have a story to tell just as yourself Mom and she only made it 6 months and you stayed 30. OMG!!!I am so upset. It is like you died yesterday. No one wants to hear my concerns, so I have written to you hoping to give me closure.As with you I can do nothing for her but warn her.And I have.I hope she listens and I hope Paul Durham stops harassing her. Paul she does not want to live like my mother did.She is a smart lady who would rather dispose of garbage in her life than you were able to do.He is garbage.Trash.He will get exactly what he deserves. To return to the life style he had prior to my mother.Living in an apartment with yard furniture in the living room!He went from LOOSER to winner.back to looser. Do I really think Paul killed my mom. Yeh I do. He killed her just being near her.with hate and neglect.in the very least.not being loved.constantly fending off a battering ram of abuse verbal and I feel in the last few years of my moms life he set in motion his desire for her to be no more.but he forgot a few things.like HE CAN’T AFFORD TO LIVE in the style my mother was able to squeeze out of both incomes. I believe the reason he took her home was so he could at least keep getting her SS$ each month.She did not get much but she knew how to keep $100,000 away from his GREEDY LITTLE hands. I pray his most recent woman he ruined health and happiness and to be ridden of Paul Durham.If you read this it is because Paul might be chasing you also. RUN VERY VERY FAST.If the police read this you can contact me via Facebook I welcome the opportunity to help put this guy behind bars.

Well, you can be proud. I have purchased a home with the money you left for me. I am so thankful to you Mom. The money did NOT go to Paul Durham.I hear he has had a bit of a hard time after your passing. Sorry but I must laugh out loud. Mother you provided for Paul a most comfortable life style, and now the poor broken man lives is a much less desirable neighborhood and a huge step down to where he belongs. The unfortunate woman he tried to treat like he did you, was stronger than you mom, she only made it 6 months. You suffered with this creep for 30 years 🙁 My hope is ends up homeless and in the gutter. He will NOT see you, myself or my sister in heaven. That is not his destination. I wish I did not allow this man to adopt me. I do not want his name. I may just take your maiden name at some point. I miss you mom, no one can take you from me now. You ARE MY MOTHER and that WILL NEVER CHANGE. I know you must be watching over me, thank you Mother.

Happy Mothers Day MOM! I do wish you were on this earth, so I could come see you. Again I anguish about missing the opportunity to come see you in Indiana. I remember you saying “arnt you going to come see me?” And I did not because of Paul E Durhams comments about me not being welcome in your home. I hope death reached Paul E Durham before he ruins yet another family. He needs mental health care. I wont let you ruin my life MR. Mom hang over him and ruin him like he did to our family. Whisper in his ear each night that he deserves death.When he passes by reach out and grab him and scare the living shit out of him. To his family you are no family to me. Your all just like him. My mom was a sweet tiny lady and her unloving life with him, KILLED HER. Read it again KILLED HER! He wanted her dead, but then found he could not live alone cause his spending habits he needed my moms money now he is a broke tiny man just like his body part. Run if your with him, you also will die a lonely death like my mom. Mom stand in the flowers and smell them. Stand at the waters edge and drink it in. Stand above your killer and haunt him. Stand above your own life. Stand above mine. Place your hand on my shoulder. Give me the strength to hold my pain inside my soul. I know the facts. I know the pain. I love you mother and i always will. This my be my last entry. I see no one cares. But ME.

Hi mom
I’m SAS today because I have lost my sister not to death, to bullshit.
I can’t even get her to answer my calls or text.
So for my mental health I have stopped trying.
Oh I’m sure you know but I FINALLY GOT MARRIED!
You never thought it would happen.
No one from my family was there but I felt you watching.
Our family didn’t turn out to be…so good.
But I have put it all aside because there is nothing I can do.
I miss my sister.
When she gets there tell her I love her.

My mother Sandra Esther Durham just loved to go shopping to find a “good deal”. Sometimes my sister and I laughed at the “finds” and always checked out what the other was given.
My mother was a cheerful person and loved to laugh and had a laugh that everyone remembers.
My mother did have a funny way of how she felt about other people. Sometimes it got her into “trouble”.
Outspoken to say the least, but that is just who she was. Try as we might, she was unchangeable. When she felt something she just had to say it. Sometimes she found her own foot in her mouth. Then she had a hard time getting it out and keeping it out.
But I have to laugh about that now, because because she was MY mother and NO ONE can take her place.
I was fortunate to take a trip to my sisters house in Washington one holiday season not that long ago. We laughed and we cried. During that trip the snow was falling heavy, and we could no longer proceed due to the deep snow, so we pulled into a “truck stop” had some food and slept in the car. While she slept I found myself looking at her and reflecting on times past and those things just became a big blur and I found that by the end of that trip I really understood my mother more than I ever had before.
Then she had an 8 hour back surgery…and everything changed in what seems now an instant. She had a bad set back. And I was not sure if she would make it…well she did make it after being in 3 different hospitals. Her husband Paul took her home and I went my own way.I believe she was never the same after that surgery. Too much time under anesthesia was not the correct recipe for her. That 8 hour surgery shortened her life.
I lost my mom that day of her surgery. I fought for here to no avail. “Marriage” is stronger than a daughter. But the love a daughter has for her mother never dies. No matter what.
My mother was opinionated. And she said what she felt she needed to. Not everyone agreed with some of the things she had to say. And others just seemed to not care. Out of sight out of mind. Then the wedding of her granddaughter Kelsey was the very last time I saw my mother. I can’t say I was happy to see her go. I was so sad and concerned for her well being. While others called me a pest and wanted me to just go away, I just could not make my mother leave my heart or my mind. I can only believe that my mother died peacefully and how she wanted. As the nurses assured me they were with her every step of the way.
Mom I love you and I miss you so very much. I can only think that all of heaven is laughing with you. And one day mom, I will see you again in heaven and we will laugh again together. Rest in peace mother, you have made a huge impression on me. I promise I wont cry for long. But I will decide. No one will ever chew me out for the love I had for you. No one will ever question my intentions. No one will ever tell me what I have to say about my mothers passing is wrong. Shame on them. Shame on them.
Oh and one last thing, my mother took care of me in a very special way only she could do. It came straight from her heart, and I know it. Thank you mother in a way NO ONE else can even imagine. I truly forgave you for everything. I am glad I was “allowed” and able to spend the time I did with you in the last few years of your life. I will think of you often. I will remember the good times we shared. And the future you have provided me. I LOVE YOU AND ALWAYS WILL.
“Your Baby”
Roni Deanne Durham.
Goodbye mom.

I still can’t believe your not here, miss talking with you. I know your in a very nice place and finally at peace. We will see each other again one day, until then Rest in Peace my friend.

Dang Mom are you kidding me?
Thanks

Let there be NO MORE DOUBT.